How to Cure School Burn-Out
Parents and Teachers Should Not:
(but usually done)
1) Tell your Kids to Just Push Through: “It is almost over, why risk getting bad grades when you have worked so hard, you are almost done, just push through!”
2) Punish and Yell: at kids for being lazy and acting out “You are not out of my house yet, and I still have control while you are living under my roof!”
3) Give Up On Your Kids: and become totally hands off because “they are leaving soon anyway, I wont be able to control them at college, at least they got into a good school, I am too tired to keep pushing them.”
4) Lock Down the Fort: Decide that “they are going to do their homework, they are going to get good grades and they are not having any fun until that happens!”
Parents and Teachers Should:
1) Acknowledge This Feeling: Tell them about this post, heck–show them this post and tell them this is normal, you totally get it and they should realize other people have the same thing!
2) Vent it Out and Explore: It is really helpful to figure out what exactly your kids feel burnt out about. Often times, it is not everything put together, but one particularly bad coach, bad class or hard test that pushes us over the edge and makes everything else work. Figure out what is bothering us and let us vent out frustration instead of freaking out that we are becoming lazy.
3) Let Us Be Lazy: Sit down and ask them what they need to do to recharge and say, you know what you deserve a day off, what do you want to do. Just having you acknowledge it and a mini-break can really help us get a new spin on it. It makes us feel heard so we do not have to act out to make sure you really understand how burnt-out we are.
4) Find the Essential: Lets be real here, not all homework is essential, not all activities and meetings are essential. Sit down with them and look at what they really need to do and what they can cut out to give them more time. If teens see parents getting flexible and open-minded, they will also be more relaxed and you are giving them tools to discern important from not instead of not doing anything at all.
5) Make a Plan: Realize what you need to be happy (minimum grades, minimum work) and what they need to be happy (time for friends, after school breaks, one weekend day off) and plan it out, make a schedule and stick to it, this can make teens feel calm and less burnt-out because they know they are getting built-in breaks.
6) Encourage Educational Games:
Students Should Not:
1) Try to just push through it without thinking
2) Give Up
3) Feel alone
Students Should:
1) Take breaks
2) Reassess priority work vs busy work
3) Reach out for help
